What if?

 What if?

The question that has had humanity perplexed forever. Who hasn't thought about what turn life would have taken if they had taken a right turn instead of left that one time, what if they had said yes instead of no or put that much less thought about that next step. Here's mine...

I have always taken pride in having no regrets. I have lived my life a certain way and I always maintain that I can never know, had I taken a different decision at certain juncture, whether it would have made my life better or worse. Weirdly enough, there is one non-decision I have often wondered about. Whether it was even a choice at that critical (?) juncture or not, I am not sure. All I know is, that I have often wondered if I could have done anything differently then that could have changed the course of my life.

Enough suspense...

Back to the college days - There was this girl that I had a massive crush on (that my first kid shares the birth date with) and this "friend" who would always be my side and shared the first name with the crush (and last name with my wife and birthdate with second kid - yes, life is weird). 

Anyway, I was either too shy, too much of a coward or too unsure, but I never told my crush that I have a crush on her. All the time, the friend would goad me to ask, I think.

Then college ended and life happened. I didn't realize till later but I was lonely in a foreign city and the only person I would call is her. For those who know me, they can understand how big of a deal was it for me to call her home phone and ask her parents to talk to her. I just never realized it for what it was.

I hear she is moving to a different city for a job. In my current imagination, I see myself taking a few days from my current job to go to that city and stand outside her office till I spot her. The then-me was too practical (cheap/blind) to do so. A girlfriend much later told me point blank that I never change my plans based on emotions.

Then one day, the crush came back for a fleeting moment and broke my heart in a million pieces. I called the friend hoping for sympathy but was told I never realized who my true friends were. I was too broken to understand the words hidden behind the words. Weirdly, they didn't even hurt.

Life moves me to a different country. The friend tells me one day that she is getting married and moving to that same country. She does. We talk once - I am flippant. 

15 years pass....life happens

One day, I spot her in the car next to me. I notice her. She does not notice me.Triggers a retrospective. Weird. I have a wife who loves me. I have two kids who are my entire world.

There are still times when I think about what if...